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Kids, Meet Mary
By Susan Hines-Brigger


An Old Friend, Made New
Show Mary Some Love
For Teens: May Crowing for Everyone
For Kids: A Mary Coloring Book

Last May, as my family sat in church, I noticed my then-five-year-old son, Alex, carefully eyeing the statue of Mary in the front of church. It had been decorated in honor of the month of May—the month of Mary. When Mass was over, I asked him what about the statue had him so fascinated.

With a look of concern on his face, he pointed to the wreath of flowers on her head and told me that seeing what they did to Jesus, he was trying to figure out what she must have done wrong. It was one of those moments as a parent that is both endearing and a wake-up call. Obviously, Mary wasn’t getting a whole lot of attention at our house.

The slight to Mary was certainly not intentional. I had grown up with statues of Mary in our garden and throughout our house. The statue in our living room was constantly surrounded by flowers and candles. Both of my sisters took part in our parish’s May Crowning. (They had stopped having the ceremony by the time I was old enough.)

When I had my own children, Mary became a companion on the journey of motherhood with all its joys and heartaches. In fact, to this day I can’t watch the scene from The Passion of the Christ where Mary runs to Jesus when he falls, then flashes back to him falling as a little boy, without getting choked up. No, Mary is no stranger to me. But apparently she was to my kids.


An Old Friend, Made New

Mary holds a special place among Catholics. After all, it was her “yes” that brought Jesus into this world. Catholics have honored her role in our faith for quite some time. But it wasn’t always during the month of May.

That practice began around medieval times. By the 19th century, the custom of linking the month of May and Marian devotions had taken hold. Since then, the tradition of honoring Mary has taken on a number of devotions from daily Rosary recitations to crowning statues of Mary with wreaths of flowers.

Liturgically, we celebrate Mary up to three times during May. When Ascension falls in May, the following Saturday is celebrated as the Feast of Our Lady, Queen of the Apostles. This marks the time following the Ascension, when Mary was joined with the apostles in the upper room. And we also celebrate the Visitation, when Mary visited her cousin Elizabeth, who was pregnant with John the Baptist. On the Saturday after Corpus Christi, we celebrate the Immaculate Heart of Mary.

To some, it may seem as though Catholics “worship” Mary, but that’s not the case. We “venerate” her in a very special way, recognizing the important role she plays in Catholic tradition as Jesus’ mother. By praying to her, we are simply seeking her help to lead us to her son.

This month, pay some extra attention to Mary. Here are some ways:

Set up a May altar. Find a statue or picture of Mary and place it in a prominent location in your house. Surround it with flowers and candles. Each evening, take some time as a family to gather around the altar and recite the Rosary or say a few Hail Mary’s.

Get out your rosary. One of the ways Mary is honored in May is often by recitations of the Rosary, sometimes in the parish setting. Check to see if your parish will be holding a Rosary night in which you and your family could take part. If not, then gather your family to pray the Rosary together or find some quiet time to recite it by yourself.

Bring Mary to the garden. Many flowers you can find in your garden are named in honor of Mary. If you have an outdoor statue of Mary, plant flowers such as columbine and lily of the valley in the area around the statue. To find many different varieties of flowers associated with Mary, check out “Honoring Mary in Your Garden,” from the May 2000 issue of this magazine.

Pay a visit. Check to see if there are any Marian shrines or churches named in her honor in your area. If so, plan a trip to go and visit

Introduce Mary. Talk to your kids about Mary and the role she has in our faith. Ask them what they know about her, or what they have learned about her in school.


I never got a chance to take part in my parish’s May Crowning when I was in grade school. By the time I was old enough, they had stopped the practice. I suspect it may have been because the process of choosing who would crown Mary had become a popularity contest. I also remember thinking that it was kind of sad that the boys were excluded. (This has changed since then.)

May Crownings were very popular around the time of Vatican II. Some parishes still have them today. If your parish does, find a way to take part. If not, suggest a new way of practicing the tradition of crowning Mary. On its Web site, the University of Dayton suggests a way for everyone to become involved. You can find it at mary/meditations/crownmed.html

The University of Dayton has a wonderful Web site about Mary. One of the things it offers on the site is a coloring book about Mary at The book contains crossword puzzles, pictures to color and pages for you to write your own prayers. Each page also has an introduction that tells about Mary. Ask an adult to go to the Web site and help you print your own copy of the book. Then have fun being creative and learning about Mary.


Do you have ideas or suggestions for topics you'd like to see addressed in this column? If so, send them to me at “Faith-filled Family,” 28 W. Liberty Street, Cincinnati, OH 45202-6498, or e-mail them to

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