So how can a Christian celebrate Christmas, instead of Consumas? It’s not easy, but here are a few suggestions:
Be aware. The first step is to recognize that commercial Christmas is a non-Christian and at times even anti-Christian celebration. That’s why Consumas is a good descriptive name: It can consume us.
Take responsibility. You can’t change the culture but you can change your own actions. A few years ago the comic strip Baby Blues illustrated the way we like to blame others for what we ourselves have done to Christmas. The father of the family is explaining to his young daughter, “Tonight is the night that eight reindeer and Rudolph will land on our roof, and Santa Claus will slide down our chimney with a big bag of toys for you.”
Naturally enough, the tyke responds, “Wow!”
Dad continues: “Tomorrow morning there will be lots of presents and candy under the Christmas tree for you and Hammie to open.”
The daughter says, “Yay! Oh boy! Toys! Oh boy! Toys! Oh boy! Toys!”
In the last panel, the father looks at the mom and says with obvious disgust, “The media should be ashamed for turning this into such a commercial holiday.” Don’t blame the media for your own willing seduction.
Present gifts from the heart. Buying or making a few gifts from
the heart is an appropriate way to share the holy season of Christmas
with those you love. The key is to keep it simple and meaningful.
Think of several friends or family members right now. Do you remember
what they gave you for Christmas last year? Do you think they remember
what you gave them? Try to find the most thoughtful gifts instead
of the most hyped; they will be remembered and your love will be communicated
each time your gifts are used.
Observe Advent. Maintain the four
weeks before Christmas as a time of preparation instead of acting
as though Christmas were already here. Bring out your Christmas CDs
at the beginning of the Christmas season, not the day after Thanksgiving.
When you hear Christmas songs on the radio, switch stations or turn
the radio off. When you hear carols in a store or an office where
you have no control over the music, mentally think of it as getting
ready for the Incarnation that is to come, not a celebration of what
already is.
Opt out of the post-Thanksgiving buying frenzy. A friend
of mine buys gifts throughout the year so that when Advent comes she
can bake cookies and make wreaths with her children instead of spending
that time in a mall (or even online shopping). Join those who celebrate
the day after Thanksgiving as Buy Nothing Day, a 24-hour moratorium
on consumer spending promoted by anti-consumption groups.
You can’t
celebrate Advent as a spiritual season if you’re in a constant whirl
of activity—parties, shopping, the Advent luncheon at school. Minimize
the Advent angst that many people (especially women) feel by practicing
triage to separate what you have control over from what you don’t.
Decide what you have to do, what you want to do and what others expect
you to do that doesn’t fit into the first two categories. Increase
your Christmas preparation time and reduce your stress by cutting
out the latter.
Watch what you watch. The weeks between Thanksgiving
and Christmas Day are a prime time for many people to watch favorite
Christmas TV specials or movies such as It’s a Wonderful Life or Miracle
on 34th Street. This year, pay more attention to your media consumption
just as you do to your product consumption.
Even TV shows or movies
that profess to be about “the real meaning of Christmas” usually aren’t.
They might be about charity, repentance, forgiveness, reconciliation.
These are all good Christian virtues certainly. But that’s not what
Christmas is about. Christmas is about a divine/human person whose
life, death and resurrection teach us that “God is with us” (Emmanuel)
and that God loves us and is alive and active in our world.
The problem with communicating values, even good ones, instead of
Christ is that commercials attach values to products and use them
to sell products. Better to give than to receive? Buy a present! A
time for forgiveness? Send a card! Need to reconcile with an estranged
family member? Use our long-distance service! These are the kinds
of commercials you’re likely to see Christmas specials wrapped around.
A few programs do
tell us that Christmas is about Christ and consumption is not salvation,
most notably the classic A Charlie Brown Christmas. Some others are
The Best Christmas Pageant Ever, The Fourth Wise Man, The Little Drummer
Boy, Amahl and the Night Visitors and Red Boots for Christmas. When
aired on TV, though, they’re surrounded and interrupted by commercials.
You can circumvent the barrage of Christmas commercials by taping
the good shows and zapping through the commercials when you watch.
Or you can buy or rent the videos. But remember to keep Advent in
your TV and movie watching.
And even with the best Christmas programs,
don’t stop at watching. Let that be just the start of interacting
with your children, grandchildren or godchildren. After The Best Christmas
Pageant Ever, go to a Christmas pageant. After A Charlie Brown Christmas,
read St. Luke’s entire Nativity story together.
Celebrate all of the Christmas season.
Don’t stop on December 25 as the secular season fizzles out. Plan
some of your Christmas-season socializing with family and friends
after Christmas Day. More important, find appropriate celebrations
for the liturgical feasts of the season. For example:
Get all of the immediate family together for dinner on the Feast of
the Holy Family. (In many families this will turn the day into a major
event, especially if there are teenagers and young adults.)
On New
Year’s Day, when we celebrate the Solemnity of Mary and World Day
of Peace, reflect on Mary’s role in the Incarnation as you pray the
joyful mysteries of the rosary for peace.
Take time on the Feast of
the Epiphany, a gift-giving day in many Catholic cultures, to go
through your wardrobes and toy chests and decide what you can now
give away after all the new things you received at Christmas. You
can also use the Epiphany to make decisions about how to donate your
time and money in the new year.
The Feast of the Baptism of the Lord
reminds us of our own Baptism. Take this day to reflect on how you
have lived out your baptismal promises.