Date: 7/31/2003 8:12:41 PM
Name or Pseudonym: newbie
Subject: I know what you mean
I know. I get angry sometimes too. Unfortunately, Im usually the one that does the offending -- Im not very graceful socially. And as such, it is much easier for me to forgive others social errors (hey, I need their forgiveness more frequently). Try the "you cannot make me angry -- I will not give you that power" mantra. Somebody famous (forgive me) said "nobody can make you angry without your permission."
Ive a friend who is quickly irritated by "unrighteousness." On the positive side, I appreciate her zeal for righting wrongs, for promoting justice, and for instructing the ignorant. On the other hand, Im sorry that a single incident of "wrong" will keep her riled up for hours. But I recognize thats her make-up and with time, shell work things out for herself. We need folks like that because they get things done and they say stuff were afraid to say--provided that they channel their anger to positive action. Not that Im promoting quick tempers--as that hurts the person being angry, Im just saying that we need not all be docile.
Perhaps your temper is a gift. Take that energy and channel it into wonderful things. Theres a story of a fella who was divorced and could not spend Christmas with his children. So instead of sulking, he volunteered at a hospital and spent Christmas with those children and had a great time. Maybe you can start a single mens ministry in your parish (but dont get upset if it gets shot down--priests are busy and may not be able to oversee yet another ministry). Start a game night or a softball team or such. Or you can join an existing ministry.
Take it easy on the ladies. I dont know if its courage or a driven need that keeps you trying with the ladies, but I applaud you for not throwing up your hands and giving up. Still, take it easy on the ladies. Avoid the ones that are not sincere.