Family Corner (Loving Our Enemies --May 2003)
Love is a decision, not just a feeling. Discuss the difference between loving and liking someone.
|Date: 6/24/2003 12:02:56 PM|
Name or Pseudonym: joseph peter
Subject: love is a decision, not just a feeling...
Man, by virtue of his nature is exposed to a universal phenomenon called love. A four letter word that could shorten life’s` journey to a day `s walk; that can calm a roaring thunder; that can heal a thousand wound and conceal million scars, that can appease the most angry god. A heart that does not share true love is a heart bereaved of something great. Sadly enough however, this one single but perfectly wonderful word has been strongly abused and narrowed down to sex. More painfully, it has left more people than expected in a difficult position to distinguish between what is meant by loving and liking.
In an attempt to showcase the true meaning of love, one cannot shy away from first extracting the man’s selfish love which is an embodiment of love, from love. Today, world over, “ I love you” is an expression whose end result is on bed. This has become prevalent so much so that the trend posses a lot of difficulties to revert.
However, love could be seen as affection. An “ affection is an act of love connection expressed in touching, stroking, holding, hugging, or kissing. It is the most important form of affirmation we can give to our children” GORDON MACDONALD. In loving, it requires showing a personate warmness in terms of listening quietly, being there, encourage, share each other pains and sorrow etc. where love exist, there is noting in living memories that can put a distance between the parties involved: There would be an unlimited joy, you will go a million miles, you will climb the highest mountain and sail to the end of the ocean for a loved one. There is no stain in the pureness of love; there is no pain in the entanglement and inseparability of love. According to the Bible, “ if we love one another, God abides in us and his love has perfected in us. By this, we know that we abide in him and he in us because he has given us of his spirit….
However, perhaps, there is noting more important, more unifying and gap bridging than love. Where love does exist, peace reigns supreme and defies every form of confusion. The ocean of love subdues the sand of hatred. Then, people will co-exist in an interactive community where everyone lives for everyone.
Like, on the other hand, implies finding something or somebody pleasant or satisfactory. Where this happens, it does not mean liking the whole part of a person or thing. An attribute of the person, may be the way he talks, is liked. Perhaps, a liked object may not last in a person’s possession as a thing he is in love with. This generally puts clear the fact that like ensued from physical characteristics.