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Family Corner (Loving Our Enemies --May 2003)

Love is a decision, not just a feeling. Discuss the difference between loving and liking someone.


Date: 6/13/2003 5:56:15 AM
Name or Pseudonym: Pat
Subject: Choose

"Love" - 1. "to have a great attachment to and affection for
2. To have passionate desire, longing, and feelings for
3. To like or desire to do something very much
5. To be in love
6. An intense emotion of affection, warmth, fondness, and regard towards a person or thing
7. Deep feeling of sexual attraction and desire
8. Wholehearted liking for or pleasure in something

Def. Collins English Dictionary.

Now, youíre saying that we have the ability (and the will) to consciously and wilfully reject feeling all the good things above? That a person would deliberately refuse to feel intense happiness??? Such behaviour would be truly insane.

It is impossible for us to judge othersí inability to love a particular person or thing. A person canít suddenly decide to love someone. A person CAN decide to do their duty, no matter what the cost to them emotionally. They CAN choose to behave towards another with love, but they simply CANNOT choose to have feelings of love for that person. It is an impossibility. If life were that simple, life would be simple.

God bless.

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