Hi Squid,
God bless you for your caring and loving nature...it is very unusual for a divorced couple to exist in this kind of respect and Christian love...you are most generous and thoughtful toward your children. I am divorced and would love that kind of relationship with my X....but he CHOSE not to deal with any of it...even his kids....but we have all forgiven him and try all the time to understand his actions and where he is "coming from"....that is only from the grace of God...so in a way we are still loving. Thank you for your post. God bless!