It is wonderful to see that you can use the word grave to suit your purpose. I have done a search for your wicca mass but could not find it please forward the exact article that you are talking to the email I have provided. In addition, I have been gone and did not get a chance to respond to last argument on the word grave (I am sorry it is only people who disagree with you that are agruing). Anyway, to answer your question quickly it does get down to one word.