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Think Like a Man

By
Sr. Rose Pacatte, F.S.P.
Source: AmericanCatholic.org

Comedian Steve Harvey, the current host of the syndicated television show “Family Feud,” published a best selling book in 2009 “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment.” This film provides a fictional story that explores the many themes of Harvey’s book. For example: The Ninety Day Rule: Ford requires it of its employees. Should you require it of your man? How to spot a mama's boy and what if anything you can do about it.

The story goes like this. Four very handsome men and four very beautiful women meet and begin dating. (One couple has actually been living together for a while now.) The women, however, have been reading Steve Harvey’s book. A fifth male pal tells the guys that the women are applying Steve’s methods on their relationships (“What are your short terms goals?” “What are your long term goals?”) and that they should buy and read the books, too, so they can turn the tables on the girls.

“Think Like a Man” is not a great movie but it is very entertaining and shares what seems like very good advice for couples. The “Ninety Day Rule” is about not having sex for at least three months into the relationship. While there is a Christian flavor to the film it seems to accept the premise that sleeping together before marriage is inevitable, it’s just a matter of when and holding out to make sure that respect is in place first.

Women I talked to at the theater about the film really enjoyed the movie because of the mistakes the men make. True, this seems like a list of clichés, but the ensemble of actors is spot on and they seem to epitomize so many ways people begin relationships. They joke about gays but this is a very heterosexual film.

If the film can help couples stop and think before dating or marrying, it’s a good thing in this anything-goes culture.

For a complete list of characters see http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1621045/




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Monica: The circumstances of St. Monica’s life could have made her a nagging wife, a bitter daughter-in-law and a despairing parent, yet she did not give way to any of these temptations. Although she was a Christian, her parents gave her in marriage to a pagan, Patricius, who lived in her hometown of Tagaste in North Africa. Patricius had some redeeming features, but he had a violent temper and was licentious. Monica also had to bear with a cantankerous mother-in-law who lived in her home. Patricius criticized his wife because of her charity and piety, but always respected her. Monica’s prayers and example finally won her husband and mother-in-law to Christianity. Her husband died in 371, one year after his baptism. 
<p>Monica had at least three children who survived infancy. The oldest, Augustine (August 28) , is the most famous. At the time of his father’s death, Augustine was 17 and a rhetoric student in Carthage. Monica was distressed to learn that her son had accepted the Manichean heresy (all flesh is evil)  and was living an immoral life. For a while, she refused to let him eat or sleep in her house. Then one night she had a vision that assured her Augustine would return to the faith. From that time on, she stayed close to her son, praying and fasting for him. In fact, she often stayed much closer than Augustine wanted. </p><p>When he was 29, Augustine decided to go to Rome to teach rhetoric. Monica was determined to go along. One night he told his mother that he was going to the dock to say goodbye to a friend. Instead, he set sail for Rome. Monica was heartbroken when she learned of Augustine’s trick, but she still followed him. She arrived in Rome only to find that he had left for Milan. Although travel was difficult, Monica pursued him to Milan. </p><p>In Milan, Augustine came under the influence of the bishop, St. Ambrose, who also became Monica’s spiritual director. She accepted his advice in everything and had the humility to give up some practices that had become second nature to her (see Quote, below). Monica became a leader of the devout women in Milan as she had been in Tagaste. </p><p>She continued her prayers for Augustine during his years of instruction. At Easter, 387, St. Ambrose baptized Augustine and several of his friends. Soon after, his party left for Africa. Although no one else was aware of it, Monica knew her life was near the end. She told Augustine, “Son, nothing in this world now affords me delight. I do not know what there is now left for me to do or why I am still here, all my hopes in this world being now fulfilled.” She became ill shortly after and suffered severely for nine days before her death. </p><p>Almost all we know about St. Monica is in the writings of St. Augustine, especially his <i>Confessions</i>.</p> American Catholic Blog The Church really is my mother, too. She isn’t a vague maternal force for a generic collection of anonymous people. This Mother truly nurtures us—each one of us. And for those of us who are baptized Christians, the Church has actually given birth to us on a spiritual level.

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