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I suggest that grandparents do their best to offer to regularly
baby-sit their grandchildren so that their children can get out
for a date! So many families I know have grandparents living close
by, but put the brakes on when it comes to this simple but meaningful
act of charity and love.
It's a win-win situation, too, because the grandparents become
closer to their grandchildren, get time to spend alone with them,
and the children get used to spending time with someone other than
their parents (especially if they're really young). The parents
also get precious time alone to re-energize their marriage, which
is critical to keeping their family balanced emotionally and spiritually.
Thanks! By the way, I'm a mother of three, and both sets of grandparents
live on the West Coast!
All our grandchildren were born abroad. Each year when they visited
we took many pictures, even of mundane things. Then after they left
we pasted the photos in a large album. Beside each picture (about
three on a page) we wrote a little story. For example: "Here is
Grandpa's green truck. Do you remember going in this truck to see
the ducks down at the pond?" After the album was finished we read
the story onto a tape. The grandchild then sas with the book and
listened to the tape that told him/her when to turn a page. I am
told they loved their yearly books.
As they grow, this double duty words/tape help them with reading
skills. The oldest of five graduated from college this year and
he says he will always remember and treasure his books. The second
one just started college. No more books, but CARE boxes will be
in the mail. For the three still overseas, because they are growing
up, there will be modified albums to suit their age.
1. E-mail your granchildren things such as poetry, very short stories,
news and words of encouragement and love.
2. Display their art on your refrigerator.
3. When they come to visit, cook their favorite foods.
4. Give hugs and appreciation.
5. Ask their guardian angels to watch over them every day.
Grandma Rose (Rosemary Loeb)
Since my grandchildren recently lost their wonderful grandmother
(Nana) and they are all quite young (11 and younger) I have encouraged
them to do two things:
1) After saying Grace before meals, add "And God bless Nana!" This
is a constant reminder to these little ones that Nana was and is
a source of great love for them.
2) I have encouraged them to draw pictures of things they liked
to do with Nana and so "mail" them to her in heaven. They send their
little notes by putting them in envelopes addressed to "Nana" in
"Heaven" and placing them in the collection basket at Sunday Mass.
Obviously they don't do this every week, but do every now and then.
I believe this gives the children a good, healthy and holy impression
of death and heavennot something for them to fear.
Try to see things through a child's eyes. This will allow you to
become more compassionate, understanding and loving. I find myself
able to compromise much more easily.
We must make the very best of every minute of our days that the
Lord gives us. We want our children, grandchildren and those we
love to be happy, and to be the very best that they can be. They
are our future.
I always ask the Holy Spirit to allow his love to shine through
me toward all mankind. This reflects on my grandchildren already,
and they are very young. God Bless!!!
I have five grandchildren ages 6 months to 10 years. Of course,
Mommy is quite busy, so when I stay with them I write down the little
things they say and do in a little book. These are records of the
delightful sayings and experiences we've had. As they get older
they laugh at the things they said when they were younger.
Also, since all of my grandchildren live far away, they write letters.
I have their very first letters and put them in a big three-ring
binder. Each child has a section where their letters are preserved
in a plastic holder. Through the years I can see their handwriting
change as they grow. I have a record of what was important to them
at the time. Even their mother laughs when she hears some of the
sayings and things the children have said.
It's nice to be a grandmother because we are never too busy for
little things that they will enjoy hearing about later on!
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